Friday, November 5, 2010

Yesterday I got into a really heated debate about men sharing in the responsibility of raising a baby.No I do not have a child of my own but I felt like I had to stand up for this poor girl.I do not know her personally but I know people in her situation. This young lady is 17 years old and just gave birth to her second son.So the conversation started with the lady telling me the baby was born and all of the happy stuff.Then she says that girl is so stupid.I know she doesn't expect him to help her cause he has other responsibilities.What other responsibilities are more important than taking care of your child?Oh yeah the other responsibility would be basketball.He has to get himself ready to play in the NBA.I thought I was going to die laughing when she said that.Maybe he will make it to the NBA but I seriously doubt it.I wish I was where I could talk to this girl.I would tell her you don't have to put up with people treating you like that.You can find someone that will love and respect you.Being a part time daddy is not what you should encourage lady.Tell this young man you need to man up and get a job.Stop having unprotected sex.If you don't want to have another baby than use some type of protection.I don't think my mother or any of the women in my family would support my brother in anything like that.If this was my brother and mother the conversation would go like this.
Mother:So I have another grandson?
Brother:I don't want to be bothered with her.I have other things to worry about.
Mother:Did you have sex with her?
Brother:Yes but that-
Mother:So this is your baby?
Brother:Yes.She knew I didn't want any more kids.
Mother:So when did they stop making condoms?
Brother:They didn't stop making condoms.
Mother:Guess you should start looking for a job then huh?
Well maybe not like that.It would be sprinkled with some curse words.But you get what I am saying.Pushing all the responsibility off on this young lady is not fair.He may think that he is hurting her but in the end he is going to be the one that hurts the most.So the lady goes on to say that the young lady is a whore.I asked did he know she was a whore when he slept with her and she said that is why he slept with her.So why would you continue to have unprotected sex with a whore?Not once but twice.Finally I got tired of listening to the ignorance being spoken and walked away.How could you encourage this type of behavior?You may think you are protecting him from whatever but you are really hurting him.He is going to grow into a man that feel like he doesn't have to take responsibility for his actions.The real issue is you have two kids that you don't support because you would rather play basketball and have fun.Wow!I find it very sad that we have parents out here that actually support their children in foolish acts like this.Maybe one day this young man will grow up and take care of his children.Also that this young lady will get the strength to leave this young man alone.
Peace and Love


  1. Boy, you sure do get in a lot of debates! But of course both parents should share responsibility in the raising the child. Especially in the black community where 72 percent of all black kids are born out of wedlock. A sad cycle that needs to stop. If I ever was blessed to be a dad, no way would I disregard that responsibility.

  2. Maybe I shouldn't call them debates.More like heated discussions.I really do feel like both parties should have some responsibility in the raising of the child.Especially black kids.I think some people just need to get over themselves and put the children first.