Yesterday I got into a really heated debate about men sharing in the responsibility of raising a baby.No I do not have a child of my own but I felt like I had to stand up for this poor girl.I do not know her personally but I know people in her situation. This young lady is 17 years old and just gave birth to her second son.So the conversation started with the lady telling me the baby was born and all of the happy stuff.Then she says that girl is so stupid.I know she doesn't expect him to help her cause he has other responsibilities.What other responsibilities are more important than taking care of your child?Oh yeah the other responsibility would be basketball.He has to get himself ready to play in the NBA.I thought I was going to die laughing when she said that.Maybe he will make it to the NBA but I seriously doubt it.I wish I was where I could talk to this girl.I would tell her you don't have to put up with people treating you like that.You can find someone that will love and respect you.Being a part time daddy is not what you should encourage lady.Tell this young man you need to man up and get a job.Stop having unprotected sex.If you don't want to have another baby than use some type of protection.I don't think my mother or any of the women in my family would support my brother in anything like that.If this was my brother and mother the conversation would go like this.
Mother:So I have another grandson?
Brother:I don't want to be bothered with her.I have other things to worry about.
Mother:Did you have sex with her?
Brother:Yes but that-
Mother:So this is your baby?
Brother:Yes.She knew I didn't want any more kids.
Mother:So when did they stop making condoms?
Brother:They didn't stop making condoms.
Mother:Guess you should start looking for a job then huh?
Well maybe not like that.It would be sprinkled with some curse words.But you get what I am saying.Pushing all the responsibility off on this young lady is not fair.He may think that he is hurting her but in the end he is going to be the one that hurts the most.So the lady goes on to say that the young lady is a whore.I asked did he know she was a whore when he slept with her and she said that is why he slept with her.So why would you continue to have unprotected sex with a whore?Not once but twice.Finally I got tired of listening to the ignorance being spoken and walked away.How could you encourage this type of behavior?You may think you are protecting him from whatever but you are really hurting him.He is going to grow into a man that feel like he doesn't have to take responsibility for his actions.The real issue is you have two kids that you don't support because you would rather play basketball and have fun.Wow!I find it very sad that we have parents out here that actually support their children in foolish acts like this.Maybe one day this young man will grow up and take care of his children.Also that this young lady will get the strength to leave this young man alone.
Peace and Love
Monday, November 1, 2010
I hate to see someone mistreated.I hate to see someone treated differently because they are not what we like for them to be.I hate when some is judged by others.I have always been a person that takes a person for who they are.Over the weekend I got very upset over some comments made about a friend of mine.All of my friends are different and unique in their own way.That is what I respect the most.I like being around people who are comfortable in their own skin.People who aren't afraid to be themselves.But sometimes we get caught up in what we want them to be.I learned a long time ago that it is best if we just let people be who they are.I support them in all decisions that they make.Recently some comments were made about a friend and the choices they made for themselves.I have to admit that I was a little uncomfortable when these comments were made.I sat there thinking to myself how this person could say such a thing about some one else.How dare you shun a person because they aren't what you are?Or better yet how can spread stories about someone that is not true?I would like to think that by now we would be more open to people and their lifestyle choice.How would you feel if someone told you could not have a child because you are gay?What if they said you can not get married because you are gay?I think that anyone who wants to experience parenthood and marriage should have the opportunity to experience it.What does calling someone out of their name prove?It proves that you are a very small minded person.It proves that it is still hatred out there.I was asked why I was taking part anything like that because I am not gay or bi-sexual.I take part because I have family and friends who deal with harassment every day and it is not fair.I don't know what it is like to deal with that kind of harassment every day and it hurts my heart to see them hurt.So yes I will continue to support everything with LGBT community.Every person deserves to be treated with respect.What really gets me is why are you so upset about another persons sexual orientation?Did it hit a nerve with you? I recently joined the Give A Damn Campaign.Lots of good information to pass along to other.wegiveadamn.org. Check it out later.
Peace and Love
Peace and Love